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Originally Posted by Ididitmyway
It just describes our general human tendency to get into relationships that turn out to be exploitative and end up traumatizing us because we always attempt to "resolve" the original traumatic experience with primary caretakers, but we do it through other people. We are driven by the need to "repair" the original relationship in order to keep the bond that once was super important for our survival. But, since we often can't repair it with the original characters, we use other characters.
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good description. and since Ts are human too, they also are going to be (unconsciously) seeking out their old traumatic patterns in others, i.e. most likely with their clients, to repair their past defunct relationships. this is where i reckon it's incredibly important for a T to understand and have their own sh#t clearly sorted, especially before taking on particular clients who will have a tendency to stir up the counter-transference feelings of the T. just like my T often triggered my transference, i definilty know i had a tendency to do the same for him. many of the problems that arose in our relationship was when he didn't know how to handle those stirred up feelings appropriately in my therapy, often wasting time with repairing of ruptures of his creating for his sake and distracting from the work i wanted to address in my therapy.