I thinks it's very possible it was just a sham. but that's the thing. you're likely not going to find out the truth. the truth is a luxury, not a right. I went thru similar things after I left my former t. 7 years of therapy with him and 2 years of intimate contact ended in.... nothing. no words or explanations. I had to accept that I will never know. I know the betrayal hurt and confusion that this situation evokes regardless of any differences in our stories, the emotions are the same. maybe it was all a sham, a showman who decides to abandon the show. maybe it wasn't. the important thing, for me at least, was accepting that I won't know. I won't ever know. and I have to learn to be ok with that