I'm sorry you're struggling, scarlett35 Please know that there's nothing wrong with taking care of yourself, as well. You can't help people all the time, especially if you're not feeling too good yourself. My suggestion would be to cut off the time you spend with her - you don't have to let her go completely if you don't want to, but that's your decision. Remember that she's the one that has to improve... you can only do so much to help her. Hopefully your friend will understand this, but if she doesn't, it's not really your fault. From what you wrote, it seems like you're doing anything you can to support her and offering her great advice. I'm sorry you have to deal with this, but don't feel guilty