I would split the payment among the dog and the doctor. I know that you feel judged, but I think others are just telling you what they think rather than shining you on. It's just another person's perspective, which you can use if it's useful to you and discard it if it's not. It is a type of support even if it's not what you want. I don't think others would take the time to respond to you if they didn't care about you or want to help. Please consider sticking around to see if you can get further than you did before.