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Originally Posted by LabRat27
I have absolutely no problem with compassion and understanding towards anyone else. It is only wh
Yes, not having one of my deepest underlying core issues would be useful. That's why it's been pretty much the main focus of my therapy for the entire time I've been going.
It's not that I don't know how to have compassion and understanding. It's a very fundamental belief that I am bad and unworthy in a way that no one else is, and therefore it is bad and forbidden and wrong to allow myself those things.
I appreciate that you're trying to be helpful. It's just a much more deeply rooted issue for me than that.
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It's also a recognised symptom of complex trauma to find it extremely difficult... Here's one of many snippets from Janina Fisher's book that I saved because I related to it: "Asked to have compassion for themselves or to better care for themselves, most traumatized clients have a strong negative reaction."