My Support Forums - View Single Post - Not spoke to my friend in almost a week, and feeling so much better! Guilty though :(

scarlett35 · Dec 04, 2018, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I'm sorry you're struggling, scarlett35

Please know that there's nothing wrong with taking care of yourself, as well. You can't help people all the time, especially if you're not feeling too good yourself. My suggestion would be to cut off the time you spend with her - you don't have to let her go completely if you don't want to, but that's your decision. Remember that she's the one that has to improve... you can only do so much to help her. Hopefully your friend will understand this, but if she doesn't, it's not really your fault. From what you wrote, it seems like you're doing anything you can to support her and offering her great advice. I'm sorry you have to deal with this, but don't feel guilty

Thanks for your kind response

I am definitely backing away, we've had times where we have barely spoke because she will just cut me off randomly (if she's struggling with things, she sometimes will shut herself away), so it won't be the first time we haven't spoken for a period of time.

I just feel ten times better, I think negative attitudes really rub off on me and leave me feeling really down. She also tends to trigger my anxiety by talking about things I'm scared of and how they might happen, rather than providing any sort of reassurance.

We never had a very nice or encouraging friendship. She'd always pull things down that I did, when I joined a choir she told me she didn't like me being sociable, when I got a boyfriend she told me she didn't think he was right for me etc. Ofc at the moment she wouldn't even respond to anything like that, but that is how she has been in the past.