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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
I have absolutely no problem with compassion and understanding towards anyone else. It is only wh
Yes, not having one of my deepest underlying core issues would be useful. That's why it's been pretty much the main focus of my therapy for the entire time I've been going.
It's not that I don't know how to have compassion and understanding. It's a very fundamental belief that I am bad and unworthy in a way that no one else is, and therefore it is bad and forbidden and wrong to allow myself those things.
I appreciate that you're trying to be helpful. It's just a much more deeply rooted issue for me than that.
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I guess I'd say that I didn't say these things. It's not about having a "problem" with compassion/understanding for others-- though you didn't do such a great job understanding me in my post. Nor did I claim it wasn't a deeply rooted issue that is undeniably complex; I didn't claim otherwise. And I've been, as I said, in the box where I mock the very idea of having compassion for myself or being willing to see myself for who I am.
What I did say was that self compassion and understanding promote a greater "enhanced" understanding and compassion for others, as a sort of encouragement to work towards it. No one ever admits they don't have unlimited compassion and understanding for others, but it does grow as you work on yourself, in my experience. It's not something I would have thought would turn out like it did, and my comment was just a tiny suggestion of reframing how one can think about self compassion. There were times when the idea of growing towards the others in my life in the way I couldn't do directly for myself was a motivator.
That's all. Sorry for missing the helpfulness boat.