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Originally Posted by koru_kiwi
good description. and since Ts are human too, they also are going to be (unconsciously) seeking out their old traumatic patterns in others, i.e. most likely with their clients, to repair their past defunct relationships. this is where i reckon it's incredibly important for a T to understand and have their own sh#t clearly sorted, especially before taking on particular clients who will have a tendency to stir up the counter-transference feelings of the T.
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This is an excellent thought - I think this is exactly what happened to my first T towards the end. I know that I reminded him of his mother and the relationship with her in the end, I made that conclusion myself but he even told me at some point. Why did not want to let go of me and was chasing me even after I terminated "to work it out" (of course he claimed for my sake). "My" therapy was nothing but a bunch of countertransference reactions in the end and I did not really understand why the T was so after me instead of happy to get rid of a client who stressed him out so much to lead to extreme reactions.
On the negative bond from the client perspective, I did not experience anything like that with my family. I never felt bonded with my mom much after age 5-6 and with my dad it was one of the most positive experiences of my life. But I still got quite obsessed with therapy and it wasn't easy to completely stop interacting with the Ts, I emailed with both for quite some time even after I stopped seeing them. I could definitely tell that, for me, it was very similar to my other addictions, not to the the Ts themselves but everything around therapy and talking about psychology. In a way, my participation in this forum now is also a version of that, I think, although this is not hard to control and I don't overdo it to the detriment of other things.