I think there's a range to sexual orientation--not an either-or. He does sound like he needs male friends more than you--and there could be an underlying sexual desire there.

I'm concerned about the lack of your connecting with each other, and if he's a Christian, then to me he should be less selfish. I, too, think individual counseling is the way you should go--and you can decide during your work with a therapist how you want to go with the marriage. You certainly sound unhappy.

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