I can't relate to grief from death, but I can from abandonment. I have experienced a lot of death, but I just become numb to it. Except pets. Anyhow... Grief is definitely not linear nor does it have to follow a certain order. And even if you have accepted a loss, it doesn't mean the pain goes away. Our brain records tapes of our experiences. When something triggers us, the tape is played. We remember. It's a way to protect ourselves. Being triggered doesn't mean that you are or aren't done grieving. It just is.