I hear you there. It's always baffled me.

I'm very sorry on your loss. I thankfully have a second dog but he is 15, so he isn't gonna be with me tons more years, I dread this happening again.

I saw your other post about "Grief is love" --reminds me of a saying I saw online

"Grief is the price you pay for love" which to me is true. I loved my dog more than life itself, so the grief was very difficult. I love my T more than any human I've ever known, so the grief is very difficult.

OP... this saying is probably relatable for you as well, loving your mom is much is why you feel grief. It's ok to do so.