I just found out today that my ex brother-in-law is very sick and is going to die very soon. He found out last month that he has 3 different types of cancer ( not really sure what types ), and they are rapid moving. Right now, the doctors said he has only less than a month left to live. He's only 31.

Here's my problem. He was married to my sister for 9 years, and was a part of my life also for that period of time. Our family was very close.

But, he wasn't a very good husband to my sister. He would sleep around with other women, wouldn't hold a job for more than a few months, and hasn't been a very good father to his 2 children.

He has been divorced from my sister for 3 years and hasn't seen his children but once in that length of time. He moved to another state and wants nothing to do with them... he hasn't even paid child support or anything.

But even knowing all of that, I still feel so bad for him. I have cried about it until I don't think I can cry anymore. I feel scared for him, and it's really breaking my heart that he isn't going to get to see his children again. It's so sad that he never made peace with them. They don't even know him anymore.

I feel guilty for feeling sad about this, because he's done so many things to my sister and her kids. Should I feel this way? Is something wrong with me because I feel sorry for him? Am I crazy for crying about it? I just don't know.

Any input would be appreciated... thanks.

Jenn