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Originally Posted by DechanDawa
This idea of the "stages of grief" being some kind of linear step-by-step process is completely out-dated. The new theory is that grief is more circular. You may have intense grief...it lightens...then you may go back into heavy grief again at a later date. You circle around as many times as it takes to incorporate the loss.
The idea of "moving on" irritates me. Grieving isn't a project. It's a life .
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She acknowledged the stages of grief is cyclical and while we are grieving whe can go back and forth between stages. She also believes grief is individual. When I mentioned a few months ago that I know I should be over this by now since it has been 18 years. She told me that I am where I need to be and she would never presume a person should get over it. Last night she said she thinks my grief is very complex. It is not only about the loss of my mom. It is made more complicated because it is tied in with my abandonment issues, my abusive step father, and a few other issues.