It's ok to still grieve your loss, it's ok to still have moments of tears or sadness. I can't understand why a T wouldn't get this. It seems so basic.--

You are so right. After reading the responses here I wonder if I misinterpreted what she meant. I will definitely bring it up next time. I appreciate that she always encourages me to question what she says. Sometimes I fear that she will think I am obstinate and resistant because I challenge what she says sometimes. But that has not been the case.