In what way do you really consider yourself deficient, HT? From what I have learned about you, it sounds like you had good education and a decent career, a good marriage, children, now retired... Those things are generally considered good social and life successes by many people. What do you feel was or is missing? In what ways do you want to contribute now but feel incomplete or limited?

Just asking because I, for example, am pretty much an introvert, never married, don't have any family now, but have had a very interesting a pretty successful career so far and several really great friendships and other personal and professional relationships. Introverted but definitely not socially inept and many people give me the feedback that I am a very good communicator. I have also overcome some truly serious issues and complicated situations in my life. Yet, if you just analyze my life with conventional expectations and standards, there are many things weird and missing. But I don't miss those at all and no desire to become any more conventional than I currently am, that is what's most important. The times when I feel somewhat disabled are when I am depressed or have bouts of low motivation in spite of having great opportunities and resources all around, but those are not truly objective perceptions as my mood (depression, anxiety) colors them heavily.

What does it mean to have a complete or sufficiently developed personality really? Also, on your note that "you don't do loss and disappointment" - but in your posts, you tend to seem quite chronically disappointed and feel lacking... somewhat of a contradiction. If you mean external loss - I also never tend to grieve people or things as much as I often see from others and can't even fully empathize other that based on my imagination. Is it really a bad thing? I am not sure, I actually think it makes life easier often not to experience deep sadness very often about external things, not to get stuck in those kinds of feelings in debilitating ways. I know very well that I am not compatible with certain kinds of people due to this, but I've just learned to surround myself with those that are compatible and don't expect me to do what is overly alien to my personality. We all have limitations, some coming from life experiences others just general biology (inborn).