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I feel guilty for feeling sad about this, because he's done so many things to my sister and her kids. Should I feel this way? Is something wrong with me because I feel sorry for him? Am I crazy for crying about it? I just don't know.


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Guilt and shame are such perfect masters. They push us to pain when we otherwise would rejoice...I'm so sorry Jen,,I have been there too...

The great poet Mary Oliver offered this to our relief;

"You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves."

It is Ok to feel the moment Jen,,it is what we do,,feel. It is right to feel,,,but don't let his sins cower you into pain.

Be there for those left behind...

IMHO.

Lenny