I'm so sorry you're struggling, FindingVoice Personally, I don't think you have any obligation to go. You cut off contacts with him for a reason, and seeing him again may only get things worse. That's only my opinion, though. You can easily decide to go, as well. In any case, if you decide not to go, I think your friend will (hopefully) understand the situation you're in and possibly won't put too much pressure on you to go. Let us know how it goes! I'm sorry you have to deal with this