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Originally Posted by FindingVoice
I'm female. I had an emotional affair with my (male) best friend and artistic partner. A year and a half ago we cut off contact, which I'm only now starting to accept.
Another dear friend of mine, female, is doing an artistic project with him and some other people, and invited me to come to their opening.
I want to support her, she always supports me. But I don't want to risk feeling devastated by being around him and seeing him perform without me. I'm still pretty affected by the loss of my friend.
Wondering if going to this will be a step forward in getting over this or a step backward into another hole of grief. Wondering if anyone can relate or has maybe been in this situation.
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Hello, Finding.
I'm so sorry for the pain you've been enduring. I've been in similar situations myself in the past and they're awful. (I too am female). For that reason I'm going to come down strongly on the side of your not attending the event.
Your good friend, if she is a good friend, will totally understand your absence once you've explained the situation to her, I am sure.
But for heaven's sake, if you are just now beginning to rise up out of your pain, I certainly wouldn't take the risk of starting it all over again by exposing yourself needlessly to this former friend.
I wish you well and hope that whatever choice you make, you won't be too badly hurt.
