I think I actually have worked through it. I come from the background of abuse and neglect and have experience strong attachment to my T. Neither my T nor I have called the feelings "transference" or are fans of labeling feelings as such, but I have always told her about the feelings I have and we have discussed where and why I might have them.

My life has turned so much better in all the other aspects because of therapy. All my relationships feel better and more secure and I view myself and life in a positive manner. I still think very highly of my T, but I have lost the obsessive quality of it all. She feels like a regular person to me, much like many other people in my life that I am fond of. I trust she cares and has good intentions and I don't want anything from her that she is not able to give. I am not obsessing what she thinks of me etc. I am still in therapy, but probably not for very long anymore, and that feels fine as well.

So thank you for this thread, it really made me think and notice that if wanting to put it that way and use that terminology, I have worked through it successfully.