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Originally Posted by TeaVicar?
oh, ouch!
Intellectualising is a defence for sure but I don't think it = a refusal to change. Obsessing about therapy and learning about it, in my mind, suggests a desire to heal on some level. Just turning up does... even if we are defensive and resistant... and who isn't defensive and resistant?! Maybe someone who had a good enough beginning and doesn't need therapy!
It is also partly the job of the therapist to find some way of helping the client reach their deeper stuff and help them facilitate change. So if the current way of working isn't working, changes (however small) need to be made within the setting.
It's an interesting piece though. I'm sure there are bad therapists that fall into this category but I see it more like becoming a parent. By being a child and by being parented, we might want to learn from our parents mistakes and become better parents ourselves hopefully. Or maybe it's just a right of passage to think that we can do better and eventually we go back to the old ways of parenting/therapy because they work.
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I don't know. I actually think intellectualizing led to successes in my therapy because I sought out information to learn all about it. Otherwise, I would have thought the whole thing to be crazy. Not sure I would have benefited the same had I not researched it myself, so I do think therapists are more responsible for client outcomes than others might point out. As I mentioned in another thread, I do believe the therapist has to work too...
Any of my behaviors/thoughts that might be considered 'obsessive' pretty much disappeared after working through the transference. In the article Here today posted, the therapist was all down on psychoanalytic method, yet that's one therapy that I strongly believe in.
Also want to point out because I think this is really important-the way the therapist works can really promote the obsession and dependency. Psychoanalytic therapy really brought it out in me-it was agonizing.