Ok I took everyones advice. Last night I cooked him his favorite meal and after talking about his day and mine I sat down, turned the TV off and told him i would like to have a serious conversation, he turned, looked at me and
We had a wonderful talk. He told me that he will NEVER me, and he has never even thought of it. Sometimes when he gets quiet he is just thinking that me talking to him so much about mental Illness (which i obsessively do) "overwhelms" him and tires him out. I asked him why he hasn't said this every time i have asked and he told me he is afraid it would hurt my feelings. For a split second i got mad at him for "lying" to me. Then I Of course I felt bad, angry at myself for getting hurt so easily before and feeling guilty for doing that to him. But a few minutes later everything was ok, and the rest of the night went great. I told him that being honest with me (even though it may hurt my feelings) is the only way it is going to help me as well as him. He seemed to understand, I hope he really does. And I know it has been like this for over 6 years now and it will not happen overnight (even though i want it to) it is going to take sometime to un program the behaviors and thoughts on both our parts. Thank you so much for the replies, they helped more than you will ever know..