Honestly, you just...cry. And try to eat. And try to do basic life functions. And then cry more. You cry and cry and cry and cry.

The waves feel like they will drown you. As someone once said to me: You feel like you are dying. Fortunately, you will not die. Unfortunately, you will not die.

The waves are very close together in the beginning - on top of one another really - very time for breathing or air.

They spread out a little over time... then crash again... then spread again... then crash again... eventually, they get smaller.

You just have to endure it. There is no way to make it easier. There is no way to lessen the pain. You just have to sit and cry and feel like you are dying and continue to not die.