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Old Dec 07, 2018, 02:23 AM
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Originally Posted by granite1 View Post
one of the things i am obsessing with is the feeling that i am going to contaminate her home . in an office you can leave all the horribleness in the office and go home . in this situation you cant .i feel im going to contaminate her home with all the horribleness i am .
my T did similarly. he notified me last minute, over a text, that he was no longer renting the room at the office that he had been using and that the next session would be out of the office at his house (for some reason he had forgotten to inform me of this news at our session). for me, it actually was quite a big deal because his last minute notification took me completely by surprise and didn't allow for any preparation. my T had no idea that this transition would be as challenging as it was for me. i had the exact same feelings you did. i didn't feel that i was worthy enough as a person to be allowed into his private space, that i would contaminate it with the toxicity of my truama and who i was as a person. it also felt confusing, because why would he allow me in his private home all the sudden when prior to this, due to the boundaries of therapy, i was hardly allowed much knowledge into the facets of his world? now all the sudden, it was ok to not only see part of his 'world' but to be allowed into that space. what should have been a simple transition from one therapy space to another was absolutely overwhelming for me, and my T definilty misjudged just how big and triggering it was. it took many sessions in his home addressing it to really start to feel any sense of comfort. i guess the best thing was, he allowed his dog to join us, knowing that i liked his dog and found comfort from him sitting with me in my sessions.

just know that you are not alone in this experince
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