I've learned the steps are ongoing and there not the only way. I don't know how you feel about a Higher Power but what really helped me is reading the book "why bad things happen to good people" by harry Kushner. Gave me peace about God.

This is all about awareness, acceptance and action. The steps I mean. Not to beat yourself up. We do things we normally wouldn't do while drinking or drugging and sometimes we do things were ashamed of when were straight for other reasons. PTSD, attachment disorder, depression along with all the mental disorders. So be gentle with yourself. It's not about guilt or shame. In my book God does not shame or guilt. God is pure love and forgiveness.