In my mind I was thinking that forgiveness does not at all mean that you put yourself in harm's way with the same person, or that you literally forget what happened and become unaware of the behavior or potential behavior. but I looked it up for a better explanation
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However, if by “forgive and forget” one means, “I will act as if the [offense] had never occurred and live as if I don’t remember it,” then we can run into trouble. For example, a victim can choose to forgive the [offender], but that does not mean she should act as if that [offense] had never happened. To spend time alone with the [offender], especially if he is unrepentant, is not [what this means]. Forgiveness involves not holding [an offense] against a person any longer, but forgiveness is different from trust. It is wise to take precautions, and sometimes the dynamics of a relationship will have to change.
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(edits mine)