It actually has to do with the neuroplasticity of our brains. They have been trained to think & react to the dysfunction around us all those years & when finally away our minds capable of always learning new ways & changing, adapt & learn what works in our new environment.

Stupid things like living around people who neved listened & I would start to say something & never finish because they weren't listening or they took the conversation off in a different direction. So when I now had people who listened & paid attention I would sometimes lose the end of wgat I was saying because I was so used to never finishing a thought. I am much better at comminicating now that I am around people capable of communicating but it took me awhile. My work environment had all been technical & work conversatikns were not the same as social.

Just learning what all my feelings were (not just my anger) was a huge challenge & learning how to communicate those thoughts & feelings was a huge learning curve at 54 + years old. I had a lot to unlearn & reprogram my mind with