I remember yelling at my last t, "all those years my longterm t would ask me what im FEEEEELING, now ive finally got it, and you want me to ignore it??!!"

DBT addresses this in declaring wise mind as the intersection of logical mind and emotional mind, and thats where we should try to operate from. Its a big section of dbt that your boy might be able to read and understand on his own. Okay its my favorite part.