One thing I learned working with the center for grieving children is the I Remember When closure experience. I use it myself in real life a lot, and it works. Each person just takes turns looking back at the life and times shared together, and telling a small story that happened . I remember when. . . not trying to make it profound or a big memory- just the real nitty gritty. It makes a beautiful conversation and makes peace within a terrible situation . The only rule is each person has to start with I remember when