My father keeps telling me that I will understand what he is doing when I have children. He keeps saying it's not easy having children. He is convinced that the ONLY way to make us successful and not suffer in life is to beat us physically, to keep treating us with no respect when we are alone and in front of people, and to control our lives to the smallest detail like puppets. The problem is that his life experience is not the same as mine. He grew up poor, and thus for him what is important is not love and respect but money. As long as he provides money, he considers himself as loving, and his goal for us is to be able to make money and be rich. Anything else is secondary and not important, and should not be brought up. He measures success by money only. The irony is that I am far from successful. I am actually a failure in life exactly because of the things he has done to me. All my classmates are more successful than me (they have jobs, married, have cars and houses, travel, ... etc), and I am almost sure that no one of them was beaten and criticized by their parents as it was done to me. I don't want to understand when I become a parent, because I don't want to be one, thanks to him.