Thread: Talk too much?
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Old Dec 08, 2018, 12:52 AM
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Originally Posted by Salmon77 View Post
A lot of superficial talk can prevent you from getting deeper into real issues. It can be a defense mechanism. I don't know if that's the case for you but it's worth asking how much of what you're saying is important, or if you're avoiding one topic by rambling about something else.


honestly, i struggle to be around people who talk too much, especially if it is superficial, because i sense they are uncomfortable and are using it as a defense mechanism to hide behind. it makes me question who they really are, what their motivations are, and i struggle to trust them. it definitely hinders me from wanting to form a more intimate relationship with them because often they are too busy rambling on about themselves to even give a rats arse about me and my feelings.

do you think you are over talking as a way to mask your true self or to keep people at a distance , even in therapy?