I appreciate what you said about me on this board, and I wasn't fishing I know what I am doing here and what I'm looking for, and I've found it. This or other online boards I've participated in the past are completely different experience than my real life community groups. I don't do any other social media either. As for community groups, they are something I struggle with on a regular basis. I've made a fair amount of progress especially in getting what belongs to other people, but I still have a ways to go to figure out my own dysfunctional actions in groups and how I can be not very constructive to the process. I want to engage in groups in my community and feel good about my participation, but I'm not there yet. Figuring out which groups are good for me and which are not and why is one of the goals I'm working towards. For me this is not a easy thing to figure out and is the place in my life where I need to develop the most nuance and understand the complexity better.

I would not engage in CBT as a client in therapy, but the book I referenced in my original post makes an interesting claim about how questioning certain beliefs can be good for your mental health. I was curious about whether that might be true for other people and it's been interesting to read the replies.