That sounds really invalidating. I wonder if your T was feeling frustrated and took it out on you. I have noticed a lot of little ways that healthy, successful adults in my life seem to care for their "inner child," even if they don't quite conceptualize it that way. For what it's worth, your self-care activities sound fine and not harmful to me, so I don't know why you would need to replace them with other activities that appeal to you less. Curling up in a blanket, taking a bath, or drinking hot chocolate are all things my T suggests as positive ways to calm down when I feel stressed. I don't think comparing the size of your reaction to what is "average" is helpful either. Your feelings are your feelings, and it sounds like you are finding healthy ways to help cope with them.