Speaking as the well-known cat lady of this town, I have two cats that I cannot handle. One was caught wild, the other, believe it or not, I bottle raised. Taking them to the vet requires leather gloves and an apron. The wild one has had three operations. I just let him be him until I have to take him in for shots or something. I just accept him for what he is, feed and water him and make his favorite, chicken hearts, from time to time. If you have your kitty in the house, you are doing a good thing. Just make sure you get him fixed if he is not, because he will develop a spraying habit. Perhaps a cat person living in close proximity can help you out in this?