I'm so sorry you' re struggling, LiteraryLark It sounds like this guy is really needy. You're not in the wrong by being put off by all of this. I think you need to discuss this problem with him face to face, and see how it goes from there. Hopefully he'll recognize this behavior and will try to change for the best. If not, there isn't really much else you can do. You can't force him to change and he's the one that has to work through his issues, so at that point you may even decide to dump him. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this