Hey, don't listen to me cause I DETEST depending on anyone so I would have thrown mom out and moved into a cave if I had to just so she couldn't rub my nose in anything or have any amo to complain about me with. You are fine, turn a deaf ear or tell her to stop complaining. As for the name thing. Just tell him you need the name not the money. I would not hold out hope for him to ever get his act together to be in a responsible relationship with either of you. If it happens great but don't want it or wait for it. Feel free to avoid all of this post since I seem to be in a crappy mood. You are VERY mature and responsible. Take care. Change kiddo's diaper in private if you have to. What a comment on a baby.