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Originally Posted by here today
If you're feeling annoyed and a little insulted, then that's what you're feeling.
It has sounded to me like he HAS helped you, in the ways that you mentioned in previous posts.
If he can't completely cure everything and is annoyed about that, himself, and feeling inadequate because the profession itself (IMO) has limited theories and methods and few in the profession are willing to acknowledge that and so he also doesn't have any support for feeling like a failure, personally, when coming up against some limitations or something -- that would be countertransference, as I understand it.
And, yeah, so in defense, he puffs himself up or blames you or whatever he needs to do to help himself feel better and more capable, even though he may not be which, again, he takes personally rather than just a fact. About living and the limits of his profession and his limits personally.
Yeah, it's hard and it sucks.
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I think at this point for me it is just maintenance. I am not sure if all my issues will every just go away. All therapy does is give you tools to cope and that is what I have done. I no longer feel like I am a danger to myself and my maladaptive coping behaviors have abated. Yeah I still go through a roller coast of highs and lows of feelings and emotions through the day depending on what is happening but I think that happens to everyone.
I may never return to baseline as fast as "others" do. So what....right?
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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