Communication, Communication, Communication.

Most relationships require compromise to run smoothly and stay healthy...But when we are at constant war with the choices our partner is making, it's time to take a few steps back and re evaluate what it is we REALLY want.

A healthy partnership need not be all or nothing, as consenting adults we get to make the rules, but to do this there MUST be communication. I'm assuming that your new girlfriends children are grown adults and living independently, so there is no reason why she should not be staying out and enjoying herself as she sees fit. If her nightclubbing is a deal breaker for you, then asking her to stop isn't prudent, maybe it isn't your idea of a good time, but she has the right to be her own person.

But this is where communication is key...As her 'boyfriend' you don't get to tell her how to live her life...However, if you are in a situation where you are sharing living space, expenses, and are both committed to a life together, then there needs to be a consensus on what is acceptable and what isn't. But there is no hard and fast rule......communicating your needs & wants with each other is key. Just be warned...To keep your relationship healthy, you may need to agree on a level of autonomy...only you can choose how much you are willing to compromise.