I grew up with a borderline mother. She won't admit it of course. Psychiatrist said I have learned my behavior from my mother, and I understand that, but I DO NOT WANT TO BE LIKE HER, I am trying really hard not to say the things to my husband (the things that come naturally to me) like "Do you love me, Are you going to leave me, I know you are going to leave me, why didn't you say i looked beautiful today...ect..) I did great today (I started Klonopin and a low dose of Lamictal Tuesday) but the things still come to my mind I am just not saying them. I know i have to give the meds time, but Is there any hope that these thoughts will EVER go away, or do I just have to find ways to keep them from coming out. I don't want to lose my husband. My psychiatrist told me to go get a workbook on DBT therapy, because we have no therapists in this area that specialize in DBT therapy. Do you think working really hard on this workbook, without seeing a therapist can help me???? I wouldn't know what other kind of therapist to seek if this book didn't work. Any advice would be good, or even just replies, thank you.