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He tried to give me an example of what he meant. He was feeding his kids animal shaped macaroni & cheese and he was eating it while feeding them and it made him feel like a kid. I was annoyed right then and there. It is not doing kid things that make me feel like a child. It is trying to sooth the child part of me that takes the drivers seat and it can happen when I am already doing "adult" things. Doing more adult things does not work as I do not make the best decisions or can not focus correctly when in that state so I hunker down.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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