I haven't read any books yet on bpd, (only stuff online) But thank you for all the suggestions, now i have so many to chose from i don't know where to start lol. My psychiatrist just recommended, Skills Training Manual for treating Borderline Personality Disorder, by Marsha M. Linehan. She said this would be good for me because there are no DBT therapists in my area. I think I will get the book my psychiatrist recomended and also Stop Walking on Eggshells for my husband, hopefully he will read it. LOL