Last night my brother's mother in law asked me to write down three things, what does love mean to me, if I could have the love I wanted what would it be like, and what do I want in a partner. I already wrote down what love means to me. Next, if I could have the love I wanted it would be exclusive, committed, stable, peaceful, warm, encouraging and enthusiastic. If anybody's survival would be insured it would be mine own because without that love , my own survival is not insured.