T was 22 years older than me. I really wanted somebody who was older than me and had already experienced my issues. It was really helpful for me.

With Emdr T I wanted somebody older than me but not age of T who was 68 and in my mind going T retire sometime soon. I ended seeing someone 5 years younger than me. U decided it didnt matter her age since I had T still so i didnt need the same guidance. Plus it would be very short term.

In some ways I struggle because she is a totally different place. Her child is 3 mine are 17 and older, her parents are still alive, she has been married 6 years (I have for 24 years). However because of all the work T and I did all that us okay. I an not sure if it would be considered transference but sometimes I am jealous of all she has done in her life. She has done missionary work in another country,, she has lived in different parts if the country doing some amazing work, and well she us a therapist....