is your parents gong to support your daughter, is she going to move in with her boyfriend to a place of there own,
just be there for her offer some help but dont tell her shes doing things wrong sugest ways to do things diferant, encourage her to get ready by asking what she think she needs and sugesting some ways to get stuff, this a link for freecycle find the one in your area
http://uk.groups.yahoo.com/search?query=freecycle
lots of mothering instincts come as baby is born
wish you all best wishes
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