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Originally Posted by Rive.
You do have a right to ask for this.
However, yes, he might not be willing/able to do so for whatever reason e.g. his style or personality. Then again, it might lead to some potentially helpful discussion.
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I think it might hurt too much for me to be able to then have potentially helpful discussions about it.
I would take it in a way that would reinforce my worst beliefs about myself and it would be devastating and I probably couldn't bring myself to be vulnerable like that again.
When I feel rejected I feel humiliated and internalize it and basically exile myself.
I'd know I was being irrational, but I don't think that knowledge would be enough.
Which is why I'm being so careful about this. It's a risk, and I don't want to gamble with stakes that high. I want to find a way to address it that doesn't make me that vulnerable, where I'm not putting him in a position of having to respond to a request or address it directly.