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Old Dec 10, 2018, 03:53 PM
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Ugh, today, I had an oh, ick moment. I had a lot of errands to run today, and I needed to buy light bulbs, which I buy from time to time but not so frequently I'm familiar with the store display and the types of bulbs on offer.

So, I'm looking at light bulbs and this man at the other end of the aisle sidles up to me and says, "You look like you work out a lot." Well, duh, I was still in my workout clothes and hadn't gotten cleaned up yet. I'm studying light bulbs and he's like, "You've got a great body." I mean, seriously! When is it OK to go up to a woman you don't know and say stuff like that. Then he goes on about how good my body looks and that he is enjoying looking at me. Creepy. He left the aisle. Thank God. I know I wasn't wearing my wedding rings, but still, a lot of women do not wear them while working out. My fingers swell when I exercise, which is why I leave my rings off while exercising, and today, I just grabbed my keys and left the house after my run. But still. I never once even made eye contact with the guy. I go back to trying to find the light bulb I need, and he comes back. More comments like, "You sure are easy on the eyes. You've got a great body. I've really enjoyed looking at you." OMG, talk about creep factor! Then, he goes away and to my great relief, checks out. I waited in the store until I could see him get in his car and drive away because man, that was creepy! And thank goodness, I had left the long sleeved workout shirt on over my tank top; I nearly took the workout shirt off as it was getting warm and the tank top is pretty fitted (of course, with a sports bra underneath).

In light of all these famous men in trouble, the metoo movement, etc., some men seem to think this type of behavior is completely acceptable, even to a stranger. Yuck, yuck, yuck. If it wouldn't waste water, I'd shower again. And it's stupid too. For me, I feel like I must have done something to bring that upon myself even though tons of women run errands in workout clothes, it's not exactly a signal to come up and say stuff to make me feel filthy (and remind me of comments made to me by an extremely creepy uncle).

Ick, ick, ick, ick! IDK, maybe he thought he was complimenting me or that was some creepy come on tactic, but ugh!

Fortunately, there was a police officer in the parking lot when I left the store (looked like he was handing out a traffic ticket to someone else). Why do some men think they have the right to act like this?
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