My T doesn't normally ask earth-shattering questions that have a big impact on me-- but there is one time that I can remember a very simple, very significant question.

He simply asked me if I felt safe there with him. It was a big moment for me because at that point I completely idealized him and I had always thought of course I feel safe with him, he's the greatest man who ever lived. lol

When he asked me that, I realized all the ways in which I didn't feel safe and all the ways in which I still didn't trust him. It gave me a huge dose of reality testing and I realized how slowly therapy unfolds and how small the steps can really be.