no this is not rape here in New York State. Pulling out before ejaculation does not prevent pregnancy....

1 a man secretes fluid before they hit ejaculation, that fluid called pre cum (pre ejaculation can in .........some.......... cases have active sperm in it.

2 pulling out at the point of orgasm/ ejaculation the fluid can land anywhere in or outside or on hands or the blankets/ sheets which allows for "travelers" to still reach their destination.

here in ny statistics are 1 in 4 using the pull out method ends up preg.

in order for pulling out to 100 percent prevent pregnancy a person has to put out long before any pre ejaculation happens and not spill on bed or surface where enjoyment is happening and wash completely hands included if hands have been used for stimulation.

my point most people dont want to take that chance nor stop the action just to go wash and apply clean bedding and such before completing the action.

my suggestion use protection. its not only a mans responsibility these days. they do make female condoms, female birth control and male birth control options like condoms. a friend of mine carries a complete set in her purse for just such occasions as her guy say oops I dont have anything. she opens her purse and says thats ok Im prepared here you go this one is yours and this one is mine Ill put yours on if you will insert mine for me.