I would marry me if I was "right" for me.

T asked me once if I could have my H stop doing one thing, what would it be? I knew the answer immediately and that was very powerful to me, to realize I knew exactly what I wanted. There was a ripple of this question a number of months later, when my H had joined me for couples therapy, and it was a very intense session, and T turned to me and said, if you could ask your H for one thing at this moment, what would it be? Of course, I hadn't asked H for anything for many years (been rejected by him way too many times early on), so this was kind of scary, but in the safety of T's office, I knew immediately what I needed from H and was able to ask for it. And H gave it. (The thing I said to H was "I need you to say you want to hear what I have to say.") It was a cool experience to tell my H this need and have it fulfilled. I don't remember that ever happening before. So this stands out as a small but powerful moment.