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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
If I understand correctly, it hasn't even been 24 hours since your email. In my world, that's not "ghosting." That's I have a lot on my plate and maybe the multiple emails make it difficult to know how to respond, so I'm waiting until I have a few minutes free to call or write a thoughtful response.
I doubt your over interpretation "pushing her away" is accurate and your expectation that she will drop everything to respond to you immediately and that she should "know" anything, are pretty good distortions of what I'd consider normal email response times. I respond to very few people within 24 hours and very few people respond to me within 24 hours and yes, I'm a busy professional as are most of the people I communicate with.
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With her it’s different because it’s not a typical outpatient therapy environment. I’m in an outpatient program. Part of it is that we’re supposed to be able to talk to someone that day if we need to. If not our clinician, one of the other ones. If she knew she wasn’t going to have time to talk to me, she normally would tell me to contact one of them. There has only been one other time that she didn’t call me back that same day (and time I have a lot of out of session contact with her), and that was also purposeful, because I had told her I self-harmed, and she didn’t want to encourage the behavior. Pretty sure that’s what’s going on now. I know she’s not going to be happy with me. I have a huge self-inflicted bruise on my forearm, and she’s definitely going to see it in group tomorrow and I’m afraid she’ll see it and she won’t talk to me because I did that.