You sound like a very cool person to be around, in that you acknowledge your feelings but can also step back and allow other people to be different from you! That's an asset in my humble opinion.

It's so hard to be with erratic strangers while suffering mentally or while under stress about something. I used to find it hard at work not to blow up something emotionally, so I think that the fact you are leaving work stresses behind when you go home is extra impressive.

Sounds to me like she gets a hit off being provocative, and that sometimes other people find that amusing/ entertaining but sometimes she goes too far. People adopt patterns like that to be with other people: someone was writing about getting that sort of hit on these boards once. I find dealing with this stuff at work where you have no choice about earning money and no choice about being there all day - it's exhausting .

You are ahead of me in your tolerance of this, good on you!!!!

saidso!